There are no role models. Who should we be looking up to. (musician, movie star, athlete, CEO) Name me 5 guys who had HIGH interest in a woman (the girl of their dreams) and was able to get her interest to 100 and keep it there? I’m waiting…
The BIG Delusion: despite people dying all around us, we don’t think it will ever happen to us. We can’t allow ourselves to think about that. It’s too scary, Same thing with relationships. All around you, divorce, drama, betrayal. But no, that would never happen to me, Until, like everyone else, it eventually does. Unless…
The Female Chase Toolbox: that sexy walk, the new eyeliner, the fingertip massage, the fluttering of her eyes, the feminine, She enjoys dipping into her toolbox. But she rarely gets the chance or even needs to. These guys are all putting her on a pedestal. These guys are all smitten already. How fun it would be to dip into the bag and pull out some of my best female tricks so i can win him over. He doesn’t let me play.
The “Lack of Manhood is your problem” Delusion: this whole industry built around biblical manhood. alpha awakening blah blah blah… as if this issue is we don’t chop wood anymore, or eat raw meat, or our muscles aren’t big enough and the new generation wears skinny jeans and hags in the metaverse
that’s not the issue. the real issue is, the real way to be a man in a woman’s eyes is – she can’t tame your humor or great mood (silly), you put a high price tag on your time, you can calmly say no and set boundaries and you can do something sweet once in a while (oh by the ay you have to be able to do this with a woman you are head over heels for and have 100% interest in) – emotional self control, delay gratification
that is manhood when it comes to women. now all that other stuff is great, but it’s not really that important when it comes to keeping a woman. Do that other stuff for yourself.
The toughest man in the world can have 100% interest and delay gratification and have self control. This is the hardest type of delayed gratification as well, we aren’t talking about waiting a week for a cheat day to have some pizza. We are talking about a woman you are madly in love with.
- not apologizing for like her (masculine)
- despite liking her – having self control, patience, and self respect to say no/have boundaries and standards (masculine)
Silly messaging beats attractive messaging
You could say….I don’t really like texting (meh, okay) or even better say, it’s hard for me to be serious over text, I’m a bit more serious in person… I’m all silly like a teenage girl on messaging, you’ll have to wait to see me in person.. I’m all hopped up on FUN DIP
—- when you message her, it makes her smile. when she’s with you, you make her smile. And when she’s THINKING about you, it makes her smile.
— just having a list of standards makes you more attractive than 90% of guys (no guy has a list of standards besides looks)
The pleasure chemicals from I’m getting something BETTER. (aka as the #1 feeling). She’s almost happen, it’s almost required for interest to be a few points lower for this to happen. And while you can’t artificially lower your IL (we aren’t robots) You can control yourself (the true masculine quality)
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