You’re confused. You’re off track. You’re playing behind the sticks. It’s second down and 30.
Here’s how to get back on schedule –
The first thing to do is call her up and ask her out on a date for a specific day and time. (not to hangout)
And so it really all starts with her picking up her phone. Because if she doesn’t pickup (or call you back), then she’s not putting a high price tag on your attention, and so there will be no date offer.
So now you’ve personally asked her on a date.
She will either say YES I’d love to, or she will says that he’s going to be busy. Women never flat out tell you NO. If she’s busy, she must give you a SPECIFIC counter offer for another day and time. If she says – we’ll do it some other time in the future (vague), that doesn’t count. That’s a “maybe” date that’s never going to happen.
If she says yes – congrats, you now have an official date “on the books”.
So starting now there will be ZERO messaging until the date happens. If she messages you before the date, don’t ignore her message (always be polite) but have the mentality of – hey, let’s save the conversation and stories for the date. This drastically increases the odds that she actually follows through and doesn’t break the date.
If she says she’s busy, with no counter, you will NOT be giving her another date offer until she HINTS that she wants to do something with you. Or, she references the old offer that she originally turned down.
As for messaging, it’s fine to respond if she initiates it (again, don’t be rude or let on that you’re upset) but keep your messages wacky, not logical and don’t give away anything about what you’re up to or what you’ve been doing. This includes being completely dark on social media.
Eventually she will hint that she wants to do something with you. However, odds are that hint will not be ideal. It will be something like wanting to “hang out” or “drop something off” or “watch a movie”. The strategy here is to politely decline her offer and then spin it into something much better like an actual date.
Hey, sounds fun, but I’m going to busy. What I can do. is take you on a date Thursday for the worlds best margaritas.
If she says YES, you are now back on schedule (dating). If she says she can’t go, she’s misses your attention, but not enough to actually go on a date yet. Therefore, you go right back to waiting until she hints at wanting to see you again.
The point is, you only ask her on a date one time. If she doesn’t accept your offer, after that it has to be her idea. She has to HINT.
There are 3 Phases – Which one are you in?
#1: No date is scheduled: if she messages you, call her up and ask her on a date.
#2: You have a date scheduled: no messaging. if she messages you, tell her to save it for the date
#3: She declined a date offer or canceled the date: no messaging, If she messages, you can respond, but be wacky and give away ZERO information about what you’re up to. You’ll have to wait until she hints at wanting to see you. Then spin that hint into an actual date.
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