Even if you’re perfect on paper.

You are handsome, wealthy, and you treat her like a queen…

If you don’t give her any challenge or positive frustration, she won’t be able to “feel anything” for you.

Of course she will try like heck and wish to the heavens that she could feel something. (anything)

She will wonder why, seek out advice from her best friend, or think that there must be something “wrong” with her….

However in the end, there just won’t be any feelings there.

So, she has to LEAVE you.

On the other hand,…

Let’s say another guy (a negative challenge) looks absolutely horrible on paper.

No job, broke, and treats her bad.

However, because he gives her a challenge (albeit a negative one) she does have feelings for him.

Of course she will try like heck and wish to the heavens that she DIDN’T like him

She will wonder why, ignore advice from her best friend who tells her to drop him, and think that there must be something “wrong” with her….

However, in the end… no matter how hard she tries, she just can’t seem to leave him.

My point –

If you don’t do things right (act like a wimp) she won’t be able to feel anything for you no matter how much she wishes that she could.

However, if you can be a positive challenge and frustrate her in a positive way, she couldn’t leave you even if she wanted to.

Let me say that again…

She couldn’t leave you, even if she really wanted to.

I want her AGENDA to be fulfilled.

I want her to have the exciting engagement, the BIG wedding, the nice house, 2.5 beautiful kids and a husband that loves her 100%.

However, as great as all of those things are –

I want the #1 ENJOYMENT she gets out of being in a relationship with you, to be “the CHALLENGE”.

The thrill of the chase.

The enjoyment of getting to win you over.

The fulfillment of working really hard for something, putting in the effort and actual getting it.

Because if you just put her on a pedestal and never say NO – and you’re available to see her and text 24-7 – the #1 thing she will like about you is that you can fulfill her agenda.

It will be a “control based” (#2 feeling) relationship versus a “chase based” (#1 feeling) relationship.

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I wouldn’t be giving her any specifics about what you’re doing or what you’ve been up to. (No logic)

Now, if she actually wants to see you, then you say…

Sounds fun, but it wouldn’t be fair to Bruce if we hang out.

I’m way too attractive and we want to give Bruce a fair shot at winning your heart. I mean come on, give the poor guy a chance.

What this does is turn the other guy into someone who’s blocking her from doing and seeing who she likes. It also makes him look unattractive.

Of course you’re going to funny and playful with this theme (never serious). And at first she may not even buy into your “I’m the prize” humor.

Ive seen this come up after a breakup where the girl just started dating someone new but still wants to message and see her ex. But the fastest way to get her back isn’t by going to see her, it’s by telling her it wouldn’t be fair to the new guy,

The bottom line is, you don’t want her to be playing two turkeys at the same time.

Once she drops Bruce (the other guy) only then can you go on a date with her.

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But not while the relationship is still going on.

There’s no need for long talks. Or analyzing.

If she says she needs space, you’ll fell like you want to discuss this for hours and figure it all out with her. Instead you just say, cool and disappear for a while.

If it 100% ends, only then do you have that long talk and try to piece together what happened.

As for now, the game is still on. You still have a chance.

And “talking” about an emotional thing like a relationship logically, will only ruin that chance.

Here’s how to get back on schedule –

The first thing to do is call her up and ask her out on a date for a specific day and time. (not to hangout)

And so it really all starts with her picking up her phone. Because if she doesn’t pickup (or call you back), then she’s not putting a high price tag on your attention, and so there will be no date offer.

So now you’ve personally asked her on a date.

She will either say YES I’d love to, or she will says that he’s going to be busy. Women never flat out tell you NO. If she’s busy, she must give you a SPECIFIC counter offer for another day and time. If she says – we’ll do it some other time in the future (vague), that doesn’t count. That’s a “maybe” date that’s never going to happen.

If she says yes – congrats, you now have an official date “on the books”.

So starting now there will be ZERO messaging until the date happens. If she messages you before the date, don’t ignore her message (always be polite) but have the mentality of – hey, let’s save the conversation and stories for the date. This drastically increases the odds that she actually follows through and doesn’t break the date.

If she says she’s busy, with no counter, you will NOT be giving her another date offer until she HINTS that she wants to do something with you. Or, she references the old offer that she originally turned down.

As for messaging, it’s fine to respond if she initiates it (again, don’t be rude or let on that you’re upset) but keep your messages wacky, not logical and don’t give away anything about what you’re up to or what you’ve been doing. This includes being completely dark on social media.

Eventually she will hint that she wants to do something with you. However, odds are that hint will not be ideal. It will be something like wanting to “hang out” or “drop something off” or “watch a movie”. The strategy here is to politely decline her offer and then spin it into something much better like an actual date.

Hey, sounds fun, but I’m going to busy. What I can do. is take you on a date Thursday for the worlds best margaritas.

If she says YES, you are now back on schedule (dating). If she says she can’t go, she’s misses your attention, but not enough to actually go on a date yet. Therefore, you go right back to waiting until she hints at wanting to see you again.

The point is, you only ask her on a date one time. If she doesn’t accept your offer, after that it has to be her idea. She has to HINT.

There are 3 Phases – Which one are you in?

#1: No date is scheduled: if she messages you, call her up and ask her on a date.

#2: You have a date scheduled: no messaging. if she messages you, tell her to save it for the date

#3: She declined a date offer or canceled the date: no messaging, If she messages, you can respond, but be wacky and give away ZERO information about what you’re up to. You’ll have to wait until she hints at wanting to see you. Then spin that hint into an actual date.

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Meaning she can “enhance” all the different the areas of your life.

She can make work more enjoyable, as you look forward to your date this weekend. She can make going to the gym feel easier. She can make time spent with your friends seem more fun, because you know there’s an awesome woman waiting for you at home.

And now all of the areas of your life feel like they’re “clicking”. You’re on a roll!

But although your woman can enhance everything, she can’t “BE EVERYTHING”

You can’t count on her alone to make you happy.

Not only does that put a lot of pressure on her, she also doesn’t want to be your everything.

Most guys start to neglect the other areas of their life, and try and make her the sole provider of their happiness.

They slack off at their job They stop working out. They never hangout with their buddies anymore. And they don’t even notice, because they’re all wrapped up in the “high” of hanging out with the girl they like.

Who needs that “other stuff”?

But eventually there’s a price to pay for making her your everything.

You’re career is stalling. You’ve gained 10 pounds. Your friends don’t even call you anymore. And to make it worse, she is losing attraction for you because you’re around too much And now you’re starting to get needy, which turns her off more.

Instead, let her enhance all the areas of your life and make them feel more enjoyable. But never give those things up.

Remember, she can’t make you happy all by herself. (and she doesn’t want to)

But the final nail in the coffin is usually when it feels like the relationship has become more WORK than FUN for her.

Once the fun is gone, she is gone.

That’s why it’s so important to leave all of the negatives and “stress” behind when you take her out on a date. You can’t start talking about all of the problems going on in your lives.

Dating is supposed to be the welcome break from all of that stress.

I always advise you to never talk about the relationship. Because when you bring LOGIC into something emotional like a relationship, you take all of the MAGIC out of it.

But that’s when the relationship is going good.

It’s 10x worse to start talking about the relationship when things are going BAD.

Talking about what happened, why it happened, who’s to blame, and how it all started.

Who cares!

Just fix the issue. Don’t have long depressing talks about it.

Because if you keep talking about it, the relationship will start to feel like more work than fun –

And she will be gone.

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Believe me, she’s in no danger of being hurt.

And the only one that’s going to hurt here is YOU.

If she says she’s afraid of being hurt, it means that a guy has hurt her in the past.

Translation: she liked a guy who just wasn’t into her (and rejected her)

And to that I say, big deal.

We’ve all had to deal with someone who didn’t like us back. And as a guy, you’ve probably had to deal with the pain of being rejected more times than you can count.

However, you still would never tell a woman you like that you can’t “get together” because you’re scared of being hurt.

So…

When she tries to sell you on that she canceled your date because she’s just scared of being hurt, don’t buy into it. She isn’t really saying that to you anyway. She’s saying that to the negative challenge from her past who rejected her.

Plus, why should you have to pay for his sins?

You actually like this girl and she knows it.

Bottom line, if you buy into her excuse, you are making a huge mistake. You are rationalizing her low interest in you.

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Downloadable on all the popular devices.

Anytime she wanted to watch, you’d be available. 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

Just punch up social media and there he is again. I can find out everything I need to know about him.

Now, I’ll admit, your show is pretty good. It makes her laugh and there’s some great dialogue. (and if your show isn’t good – for example it’s too negative or serious – you need to fix that first)

The problem is you’re on TV way too much.

Instead, you want her to have to buy a ticket to come see your show.

You want her motivated to come out and see your show in person.

(Your show isn’t available VIRTUALLY over text or social media. If you want it, you have to come see it LIVE)

So in the meantime, what can you give her until she’s so motivated to come see your show that she buys a ticket (wants a date)

Well, you ONLY give her PREVIEWS.

You don’t give her NOTHING.

You give her a PREVIEW.

That means no more 30 minute “deep” conversations or two hour text exchanges.

A “preview” is a quick little reminder of how much fun you are and how much you make her laugh.

That means one funny text message and stop. Or a quick 2 minute fun conversation where you get out of there first.

Think of it like a movie trailer – no more than 2 minutes!

Or like a commercial (a little reminder of what she could be getting if she buys in)

Remember, you’ve got a pretty good show – the problem is it’s on all the time and she can watch whenever she wants.

Put a higher price tag on your show and she’ll be more motivated to come out and see it in person!

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